What Dads Really Want On Father’s Day

What Dads Really Want On Father's Day

Hey Everyone! I hope you had a great Father’s Day. We had a low key day at home and didn’t do much. That’s exactly what I needed. 2020 has been a crazy year so far and a little downtime was perfect. I also talked to my parents in Thailand. I wanted to visit them this summer but I had to scrap the plan when COVID-19 shut everything down. In March, Thailand went into lockdown and banned all international passenger flights until the end of June. My dad said things are back to normal now so it sounds like they handled it pretty well. In June, Thailand is detecting just a few cases per day. Anyway, I don’t think it’s a good idea to visit this year. My parents are over 70 and they are more venerable to COVID-19. The US has so many cases now and I don’t feel safe to fly such a long distance. We’ll probably visit next year instead.

Appreciate your dad

Do you have a good relationship with your father? Now that I’m older, I appreciate my dad a lot more. He made a lot of mistakes, but he also had our backs when it counted. My parents had a contentious relationship since they were young. It was stressful to be a kid in that kind of family. My dad is hard to live with. That’s why my mom moved in with us in 2010. However, she developed dementia and we decided to move her back to Thailand at the end of 2018. My dad has been taking care of her since then. We’re very grateful for him because I couldn’t do it. My mom became very paranoid and blamed my wife for all her problems. If she stayed in the US, she’d had to go to a nursing home. Luckily, my dad stepped up and he’s taking good care of her. Hopefully, she can live at home for a few more years.

I don’t think you can fully appreciate your father until you have a kid. RB40Jr is very emotional. He gets angry and sad very easily. I think he is very similar to my dad. We get mad at each other over something trivial almost every day. My wife thinks we fight too much. I just want my son to be better so I’m hard on him sometimes. He doesn’t appreciate it right now but he’ll know I have his best interest at heart when he’s older. Kids need tough love so they’ll build some grit.

Anyway, I asked my dad to go out for sushi to celebrate Father’s Day. That’s the best I can do this year. At least, we talked a bit.

What dads want

On the home front, we took it easy this year. Most dads don’t really want any gift for Father’s day. I asked Twitter and here are the things we want most.

  • Extra sleep
  • Some “me” time
  • Quality time with the kids
  • A date without the kids
  • No screaming/yelling/fighting

I slept in a bit on Father’s day and that was great. Mrs. RB40 and Junior also spent time working in the yard so I had a couple of hours to myself. Also, Junior found a game we could play together on Xbox – Minecraft Dungeons. That was fun and we didn’t fight much, for once. (Overcooked! 2 is a ton of fun too if you enjoy co-op games.) So I got most of the things on the list above. Unfortunately, we didn’t go out on a date, but that’s alright. Mrs. RB40 set up a tent gazebo on the deck and we enjoyed a nice relaxing day.

Gift ideas

If you’re looking for a gift idea for the dads in your life, here are some ideas.

Pop up canopy

pop up canopy

Mrs. RB40 wanted a canopy so she can work on her projects on our deck. I got one and she set it up. It’s really great so far. We’ll leave it up all summer so our deck is more users friendly. However, I don’t think the canopy material is going to last. We’ll probably have to get a new cover or tarp next year.

Badminton set

I also got a badminton set so we can play at home. I got a super cheap set because I wasn’t sure if Junior would like it. It turned out pretty well. We enjoyed playing a lot. However, he gets really frustrated when he makes a mistake. He really needs to work on that. The rackets aren’t the best quality, but they’re good enough for now. We’ll get real rackets if we stick with it. It’s a good way to get some light exercise and a little outdoor time.

Past gifts that are still great

DIY pull up bar and rings

Here is a very affordable project you can work on with the kids. What do you think about my DIY pull up bar? It looks great, doesn’t it? I love it. Here is the instruction.

  1. Measure the hallway. My hallway is 35” wide.
  2. Go to Home Depot and see if you can score a free pipe. Every time you go to HD, check the black galvanized pipe section. At my HD, they only sell 10-foot length pipe ($47.27!) People just cut what they need and leave the rest there. Look for a pipe that was cut and treaded only on one end. This is an extra piece that you can get for free! Last week, I found a 1” pipe that was about 45” long. I asked the HD guy to cut and tread it for me and he did it for free. I love Home Depot. Take an inch off your hallway measurement and it should work perfectly. I got my pipe cut to 34”. I recommend the 1” pipe, the smaller pipes are too small.
  3. Get 2 floor flanges while you’re at HD and make sure it fits the pipe. I paid $7.32 each for mine. This seems expensive to me, but the free pipe more than offset the cost. If you’re not in a hurry, you could order it from Amazon and save a bit – 2x 1” floor flanges.
  4. Screw it into the stud. If you don’t have a stud finder, now is your chance to get one. It’s pretty useful. Here is a good stud finder from Zircon for about $25.
  5. Do some pull-ups. Get the kids to do some pull-ups, too. It’s the best exercise you can do at home.

*You might have to “sell” this DIY pull up bar idea to the missus. The biggest side benefit is that it’s a great place to hang dry some of her clothes. That’s a big positive. Also, you’ll look great from all those pull ups. We had this for about a year and it’s still going strong.

rope climbI also got a set of gymnastic rings to go with this. Junior uses this to swing around almost every day. His hands have more calluses than mine now. I highly recommend these rings I got last year – wooden gymnastic rings. They’re 1.25” thick and that’s perfect.

Rope climb

Did you ever do a rope climb in PE? I couldn’t do it when I was a kid. It’s tough if you don’t know how to do it properly. Last year, we ordered a 10’ climbing rope. I attached it to our maple tree with a swing kit. Now, our son can climb rope so it worked out quite well. These days, it’s mostly used as a rope swing. This was a great purchase, but next time I’ll order the 20’ long rope. This one is a bit too short.

Did you get anything nice for the dads in your life this Father’s Day? If you’re a dad, what do you really want on Father’s Day?

Image by Juliane Liebermann

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